I MELT WITH YOU (2011) – Review


Friends to the end.

Mark Pellington’s I Melt With You defines the term friends to the end. Say what you like about friendship. If fortunate, they are sometimes the single thread that help to keep us together. Mark Pellington (Arlington Road) adapted I Melt With You from a screenplay by writer Glenn Porter. The film stars Rob Lowe (The Outsiders), Thomas Jane (Dream Catcher), Jeremy Piven (Entourage), and Christian McKay (Tinker Tailor Solider Spy) as a group of old college friends who attend their annual weekend retreat–only this time, they are forced to take a hard look at their lives, and the decisions they have made.

There may come a time when each of us take a moment out of our busy lives and reflect on the important events in our lives, and perhaps compare our dreams to the incomparable situations that life has led us:  Re-evaluating friendships, family, and public and private achievements. No one can honestly assess the real results of our deeds laid bare before us and yet, we  somehow celebrate our failures and successes to form the basis of, according to Abraham Maslow, “the basis of the perceived need for self-actualization, ‘what a man can be, he must be.'”

If social, psychological, and intimate needs are not met, one simply cannot progress to the next level in the hierarchy of requirements.  I Melt With You directly serves as an example of how human motivation, need, self-actualization, and self-transcendence resonates throughout the emotional, and tragic events that occur.

Richard (Jane), Ron (Piven), Jonathan (Lowe), and Tim (McKay), whom all are in their 40’s, meet every year at a lofty beach house to re-live their 1980’s college years filled with drugs–lots of them–alcohol, and their memories.  They arrive one by one and enlist themselves in drugs and  alcohol. The room was filled with laughter and tales of their sexual conquests, and current lives, however, something was different about this time.

Richard is a failed novelist and the rowdiest of the quad. He teaches a high-school class of uninspired young adults, Jonathan, is a divorced parent and drug-addicted physician, Ron is married and father of three daughters–he is also being investigated by the Feds for corruption, and Tim, a hopeless romantic, still grieves over the death of his lover and sister. All are in one form or another, at a point of self-actualization. Unfortunately, it is what they are forced to come to terms with–when they failed to live up to personal expectations, led them to reconsider the 25th-year blood pact.

Watching, I Melt With You was an emotionally heavy experience. Director Mark Pellington wants you to feel every moment of these four middle-aged men’s bouts with self-indulgent escapades–in order to reveal the dark side of growing old, festering in guilt, and existential crisis–and wasn’t afraid to remind themselves of the mess they made of their lives.

The film succeeds in depicting emotional turmoil, and how each of the men failed to satisfy social, psychological, and emotional needs growing up; evidenced by the yearly drug binges, an effort to recapture that particular point in their lives when the world was in their hands–only realizing, too late, their own recklessness, that they can no longer avoid reality. They talk mainly about the past, as they could not successfully address the present—although their current lives truly weren’t that bad. Even when it came to finality, they would still reminisce about the past, and the time wasted.

Overall, I actually enjoyed this movie; the acting performances are solid (Priven, Lowe, Jane and McKay at their emotional best). Once you get past the bombardment of music, sex, drugs, and alcohol–and the ‘out-of-place’ or random addition of a local cop, Laura (Carla Gigino), you can truly appreciate the conscious value I Melt With You offer–that life does not always turn out as planned. There are difficulties, attachments, challenges on individual’s emotional well-being. Especially when existing only in selfish indulgence.

Below I have attached the title sequence of the film. The reason for this is that it emphasizes the particular importance of the entire movie, it provides a glimpse into the minds of these men and the inner conflicts they repress. It is an intelligent inclusionary detail by Pellington, for it sets the tone for the rest of the film.

This movie will move you; it will also bring attention to those special moments, the finer and important details about life that goes ignored. It isn’t just about obnoxious music and getting high. It’s all about self-reflection and an attempt at conquering those inner demons.

‘You never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only option you have.’

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  • Rated 3 stars
  • Good

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Review Summary:

I Melt With You - Things spiral out of control when a group of friends when a pact they made as young men is revisited.

Sandy Hoffman
My name is Sandy +AIDY Hoffman. I am the creative writer and film reviewer of the AIDY Reviews website.
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